Thursday, July 16, 2009

Friends of Maddie

Several months ago my friend Maria updated her Facebook status to say something to the effect that she was sobbing and was sad for her friend. Almost immediately I popped open my Google Chat window and sent her a message. And that's when she told me about Maddie Spohr. I couldn't get to Heather's blog that day because, like most of you know, her site couldn't handle the traffic with everyone seemingly in the world wanting to know what happened, and wanting to support Heather and Mike. Being the over emotional, empathic, soggy person that I am, I started following Heather and occassionally writing comments on her blog just to give her support. She didn't know me but I didn't care.

I never want to know what she and Mike are going through, losing a champion-fighter, beauty of a child, but I've sat and imagined it. I have had daytime nightmares, lost in a maze of "what ifs", usually ending with me in tears. I don't know why I do this to myself. But I get to wake up from the terror. They don't. I have witnessed grief first hand for dear children, Jake & Josephine, and we lost our own child, Noah, in a complicated pregnancy. Grief sucks. And without support and love from your friends, family and even total strangers, it's just not possible to cope.

Today Heather & Mike launched the Friends of Maddie organization. To quote Heather:

After we lost our Madeline, we didn’t know what to do with our lives. Everything we did, we did for her. Our lives, once focused on our wonderful daughter, were adrift.

Too devastated to plan our child’s funeral, our friends did it for us. So unprepared for the financial burden of paying for it, thousands of people from all over the world made contributions big and small to assist us. There was more donated than we needed.

So what to do with that extra money? We knew right away.

Today we are proud to announce Friends of Maddie, a non-profit organization we’ve started in honor of Madeline. (read the rest of Heather's post)

So I'm blogging about Friends of Maddie today (with Heather's permission) because some of my IRL friends who follow my blog don't know about the Spohrs and their daughter who beat the odds in the NICU. Some of you have had NICU babies and know how much support you need to get through. Some of you don't have kids yet so you don't know about this world of mommy bloggers who, without even meeting each other, support each other to no end. It takes a village friends, not only to raise your children, but to survive being a parent. Which ever category you fall in to I'm asking you to please go support the Friends of Maddie. It's $25 to supply a family with a NICU survival kit. It's only $5 to enter a contest to win a Dell mini computer. That's small considering what this organization aims to do.

Note: Their tax exemption status is pending approval so donations right now are not tax exempt. BUT, that isn't the reason why you should donate. Donate because you care and want to support families in need. Donate because the world needs a little goodness and compassion. The economy sucks right now, but I can guarantee most of us have a lot to be thankful for, and $25 will make a difference to a worthwhile organization.

Please be a friend to Maddie. You won't be sorry.


JosiahsMommy July 16, 2009 at 11:30 PM  

This is absolutely a parent's worst nightmare. I also get lost in daytime nightmares of what ifs. It breaks my heart to hear about this. Thank you for the post.